“Embrace and love your body. It is the most amazing gift you will ever own!”
Month of February = Valentine’s Day = Love all around = Me writing a post about love = Can I be more cliched 😉 ?! I have a confession to make – I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love everything about love and romance but personally, I don’t think that your actions for the entire year can be compensated by what is done on one particular day (please don’t hate me! I have absolutely nothing against people who do celebrate. 🙂 ). Since that is off my chest, let’s talk about something I love celebrating i.e. loving yourself and your body. And that’s the kind of celebration I want to do this Valentine’s Day and every other day! Who is with me? *raise your hand*!
Disclaimer – I strongly believe in exercising and eating right. What I don’t believe in is that a fit body = a certain size!
Let’s go back in time
Why does this woman talk about loving yourself and your body all the time!? How self obsessed is she? Ok the answer to the second question is maybe a little obsessed 😉 , but lets talk about my childhood to understand my passion for this subject (always a back story people! ). All my life I have yo-yo’d between different sizes. I was a chubby kid and people around me (not my immediate family) made sure I was aware of it at every stage of my life. Young kids are extremely impressionable and the effect on me wasn’t that good either. One of my uncles even called me a wrestler !! (I was 10 and my self-worth after that was -10000. Ok it sounds funny now but it most definitely wasn’t). I hated everything about myself and it did not help that I had a mustache and a unibrow. As you can imagine, I thought my life was doomed. When I was in 10th grade, I became determined to lose weight. So what does a girl who has been taunted all her life do? Make the right choices? In an ideal world – absolutely yes! On earth – hell no !! I went on a dieting spree and lost weight along with lots of hair within 2-3 months! People were finally calling me thin and I was on cloud nine. I could live with thinning hair as long as I was thin. Pretty good logic right ? 😀 But but .. fairytales rarely last. Weight lost the wrong way has a tendency to crawl back. Long story short, I still struggle but now I am learning to love what I have!
Fast forward today
In hindsight, I wasn’t extremely chubby but even if I was, noone has the right to body shame! Even today people comment on my weight saying things like ” Oh what’s going on? Not exercising?”. I know friends who are on the other end of the spectrum i.e. supposedly too thin and get similar body shaming comments like “oh why are you not eating well?” or “you look like skeleton”. Why is it socially acceptable to comment about a person’s body? Why do people think that being a certain size magically makes a person more worthy of everything? You know what is even more surprising? Most of the times a person who is not the ideal size (whatever that is) , himself/herself thinks he/she is not worthy of finer things in life! I was one of them and being honest, sometimes I still struggle. Body shaming affects a person at a very deep level and people don’t realize how their words can plant seeds of doubt and self consciousness.
The world will be a wonderful place if people start uplifting each other but until that happens, ignore the negative comments and focus on yourself! I strongly strongly believe my body is the most fantastic thing ever- helping me, moving with me, repairing itself and just being there even when I am scrutinizing every part of it! If this is not the most unconditional kind of love, then what is? You can always aim to improve it but don’t hate it during the journey to your best self! I challenge you to not say a negative word about your body/yourself this Valentine’s Day (let’s make valentine’s day a day to be fully accepting of yourself , flaws included) 🙂
For this post, I wanted to wear something that was both powerful and romantic! Red was the perfect choice. I chose a short dress because I have been taunted all my life for my big thighs. I have learnt to love them with time. C’mon these babies have taken my anger and still carried me around! This valentine’s day wear something you have always wanted to even if the voices in your head say otherwise:)
Apart from being a huge advocate of positivity, I also do some not-so-natural-modelling-for-bags as you can see from the picture below 😀
We have just one body. Either we can choose to love it or hate it. The choice is ours! I would love to hear what you guys love/admire about yourself. Please share them in the comment section. From my end , I love my smile and ability to connect with people. 🙂 – Love, M