Mind vs everything = Mind wins everytime.
Life is simple but our mind has a habit of making things complicated. It begins with a tiny thought..
‘Wow she is so pretty and has the most perfect body. Well I am not going to take it to heart. I have a wonderful personality and I am working on getting fitter…….but that dress looks so mindblowing on her. If I wore the same dress, it will look like a pumpkin is wearing a dress. I am so ugly and have no control over my eating habits. I deserve all the sadness. I am horrible. I am not worthy of good things.’ – Day ruined!
‘Oh I forgot to send an important email to my boss before leaving for vacation. Hmm I think it should be okay. oh but wait.. what if it is important? Will my boss think I am unprofessional to have forgotten to cover all my tracks before leaving. No no.. It’s okay, my peer will provide that information. Should be fine.. But wait, would that mean that he/she will get promoted over me? It just shows how incapable I am. I am an imposter and not good enough. I am not worthy of happiness.’ – Vacation ruined!
Our mind is the most capable tool and at times, a very destructive one. You give a very simple situation to it and sure knows how to complicate the
shit out of it. My mind is a total legend in this case. #Monika’s-mind can cook up stories beyond imagination and in turn make me feel like I am the most unworthy person in the universe. *I give way too much important to myself*. But seriously, it’s true. *Not the most important person part guys*. A thought creeps in and spirals out of control until I am left broken. I am sure alot of you can relate to it.. Doesn’t it also physically tire you?
But we are not a lost cause. Na na na.. We are capable of controlling this beast. And we will. I have been trying to practise mindfulness in the past couple of weeks and it sure is helping. Ofcourse my mind still plays games with me. But games are fun! Rather than killing myself over the negative thoughts, I take a step back, soak it in, try to turn it into a positive thought and if I cannot, I just let it pass. *Does this mean Monika is growing up? 🙀*
Here are some tips and tricks that are helping me and hopefully will provide some value to you guys as well –
Realizing that no thought is make or break
I have always given my thoughts way too much importance. *yes, I need to work on this whole narcism thing* . Ofcourse it’s good to be nice but sometimes your mind deserves tough love. If not, it will wander to uncharted territories and you know what happens then. *Think about all the horror movies where the actors stupidly go to places that are screaming terror*. To live more mindfully, it is important to realize that no thought is ever make or break. Thoughts are just thoughts. They are as powerful as you want them to be. Nurture the ones that are positive and bring you closer to a sense of peace and balance. Recognize the ones that push you down, stop them and ask ..
Where is the evidence?
Whenever a negative though creeps in, take a moment. Step back and ask yourself, where is the evidence? For eg. if your mind is pretty mean and says things like “You are a failure in life”, instead of agreeing and crying your eyes out, hold your head up and look for evidence. Let’s take my example. I haven’t been in this world for a very long time *in other words, I really don’t want to tell you guys my age but hey I promise I am young!*, so how can I think that I am a failure? What instance of my life makes me think that I am a failure? I have a great support system. A decent life.. Roof on top.. A safe life.. Then what makes me a failure? Get my point? Keep digging deep and 95% of the time, the thought is lying. *not everyone in this world is truthful you see*.
Always look for evidence!
Positive mind is a happy mind
Ahhh how much I want my thoughts to be all positive and living in a unicorn world. 🌟 The reality is not even close.. But but I am trying really hard. And to a teeny tiny extent, it’s definitely working. Whenever a negative thought creeps in, I stop myself immediately. I say something positive and move on. I do not give too much importance to the negative thought and thankfully *unlike some people 😁* it understands that it has no job being in my mind and leaves me *atleast for the time being*. Practicing positivity may sound uncool and oh-so-lame but it works. Give it a try!
I am a huge fan of self-help books and websites. Alot of my friends don’t get it but hey, a girl gotta do what she gotta do. Give it a try if you need an extra nudge to get going. In the worst case, you’ll find it cliched and stupid. But imagine if it actually works and pushes you to get out of the couch to live your vision! Ahh the possibilities. 😇
Is this something you guys want to know more about? Comment below if you would like me to write a separate post on some of the books and websites I love. 😊
Move your body and your mind will thank you. I struggle with being consistent but whenever I do get moving, everything feels right. There is a sense of calm and being present in the moment without the constant struggle of what the future holds. I am personally a huge fan of zumba but any form of exercise will do the trick. I have heard great things about meditation and definitely want to take it up someday..
Welcome back to another post in the fall/winter series. I wanted the look and feel of this post to be uncomplicated to go along with the concept of decluttering your mind. This outfit was put together in 10 minutes and the shoot was done in another 15 minutes. All I did was stand in one place and move my body/head left-right-left *mostly only left*. Go through the pics and you’ll know what I am talking about! 😆 Yes, blogging can be simple
somedays. Ofcourse the outfit needed to be fall related for temperatures that are no way close to fall. Let’s talk about 2 key pieces that fit the bill perfectly!
You all know my undying love for kimono’s. No? Check out this post pretty please. Kimono is a great transitional piece and provides a very light layer for a very hot weather. 🙈
Athleisure is my jam! Exercise may not be but gym wear most definitely is! I can wear tracks in the morning, afternoon, night, to lunches, brunches and if allowed, formal dinners. I think track pants are a great addition for slightly cooler weather. They provide coverage and most importantly the comfort when you are having burgers, fries, milkshakes, ice-creams and all the good stuff.. 😈
And that’s a wrap for another post in the #celebrate-fall-with-monika series. Have a fantastic week my lovely people.Until next time.. ciao – Love, M ❤️
“Be mindful of your self-talk. It’s a conversation with the universe.” – David James Lees
I would love love to know some of your tips and tricks for being more mindful and not letting the mind control every aspect of your life. This chica appreciates all the help she can get. 😊