I am slowly and steadily getting rid of pieces that are not needed for spring/summer. I am also working on removing layers of self consciousness and doubt that are by-products of the fast approaching warmer seasons. The title makes sense now right? I had to dig deep into my creative reservoir to come up with this. But wait.. were you guys expecting something else!? 😱 Sorry to disappoint but I write only clean and decent content (afterall I am a good Indian girl 😉).
Warmer seasons = no more tights or heavy coats, no more gloves or scarves, no more looking like a cute fur baby. Ok let’s keep the cute part sans fur. But the real question is, should you still be excited even though your dream summer body is still a dream (let’s be real, we all dream to magically transform into those gorgeous James Bond women during winter!)? It’s absolutely fine if you are not into the whole spring/summer fashion scene. But if you don’t wear those clothes because you think your body is still not perfect, then my gorgeous girlfriends.. let’s get talking. In my previous post, I spoke about body shaming that comes from the outside world. But there is an even bigger issue which lies within us – our inability to see our worth and allow ourselves to live an authentic/full life because we believe our happiness is inversely proportional to our body weight.
You are beautiful (that’s what James Blunt said and I approve!)
Big thighs. Thin arms. Big booty. No booty. Size 20. Size 0. No matter what you relate to, remember you are absolutely gorgeous. I don’t deny that I would love to have a body like Moreno Baccarin. I mean did you guys see her in Deadpool? How gorgeous is she?! Maybe she also secretly wishes to be like someone else or…. maybe not. I guess it’s okay to feel this way once in a while but we can’t continue living our lives wishing to be someone else. If we continue to put ourselves down, the world is going to reciprocate and treat us like shit. Do we want that? Ofcourse not! Each one of us is beautiful and brings something unique to the world. How unbelievable it is that no one else is just like you in this vast universe? It always blows my mind that everything about me is unique from my personality, voice, fingerprints to choices. Isn’t that reason enough to believe you are extraordinary?
Ofcourse I have days when I struggle to follow my profound teachings but then I snap myself out of it and pretend to be walking down the red carpet (one of my secret wishes) dressed like a million bucks, waving and feeling like a total rockstar! What I am trying to say is that it’s okay to feel shitty somedays but on the other days, pull yourself out of it and believe that you are the most gorgeous woman on the face of earth ❤️
Take baby steps
Now let’s talk about clothes for the warmer seasons. Frankly, I have spent so many years bundled up because I thought if I showed my legs or arms (with the deadly cellulite), it would offend others or make them squirm. Isn’t that insane? I was ashamed of my body and tried my level best to ensure noone else said it out loud what I was scared to hear. Yeah, it’s pretty twisted. Anyways, when I finally got some sense that not everyone is scrutinizing me and it was more of my mind playing games, it was time to stop covering myself head to top on scorching hot days. I took baby steps by wearing something like a knee length dress with a light cardigan and eventually moved on to shorter skirts/dresses and sleeveless blouses. By starting small, I was able to build up my confidence slowly. If you are like me, start with something you are comfortable with. Some options can be-
- Maxi dresses
- Knee length dresses/skirts/shorts
- Off shoulder blouses
- Light cardigans
- Palazzo pants
With time you’ll be more confident and not worry about how others perceive you or just get wiser to realize the world doesn’t revolve around us (sadly!) . When that day comes, don’t forget to thank me.
Coming to the outfit for this post, I have always been drawn towards a slightly boho style. I love love flowy tops, dresses, kimonos, loose cardigans.. This look embodies everything I love from a chunky cardigan to a shift dress to cute booties and jewelry. 🙂
It’s always a struggle to find the right words to end my posts. I know it’s pretty hard to believe considering how cool I am! Jokes aside, a small snippet of what goes on in my mind- *end of the post means I need to dish out some great advice*.. *thinking cap on* …. *still thinking*… *falling asleep* … *it’s 2:00 AM* .. *Monika wake up* .. *2:15 AM*.. *2:20 AM*.. *Just write something.. ok anything*.. 😋
Here it goes , ignore the voices in your head that lower your confidence. Remember, you are gorgeous and powerful beyond measure. – Love, M
And I said to my body, softly, “I want to be your friend.”
It took a long breath and replied, “I have been waiting my whole life for this.” – Nayyirah Waheed